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Killer Marriage Tips

Expecting Perfection

If you're looking for perfection, look in the mirror. If you find it there, expect it elsewhere. Malcolm S. Forbes (1919-1990, American publisher, businessman) Everyone wants others to be tolerant of their own follies, weaknesses and foibles. Yet we are often harsh and intolerant of the weakness of others. In Matthew 7:3-5 we read: 3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. Especially in marriage, it is important to be tolerant, kind-hearted and forgiving of each other.

Celebrate each other successes

Picture this: Your sweetheart got finished a project at work. How do you react? People love to celebrate with others when an "event" occurs in their life. The events don't need to be the big ones either, event the small events in life need celebrating. Each life needs time spent celebrating with people who build us up and are happy for us. After I had been laid off and found a new job, I decided to celebrate the first anniversary of my new job. I went to the store and got a decorated cake and we made an "event" out of it. What should you do when you spouse has good news? Be positive and excited. Don't become jealous, dismissive or selfish. We all know a gloomy Gus or two who always look on the down side of life. Maybe it is "I never get anything like that" or "that's nice dear" or "great, now you can have time to weed the garden". Instead be positive and celebrate together.