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Date Idea: Build a Snowman

The Power Of Love :) Originally uploaded by !!! Monika !!! In the meadow we can build a snowman Then pretend that he is Parson Brown He'll say 'Are you married ?', We'll say 'No man, But you can do the job when you're in town.' -- Winter Wonderland Playing the snow is fun for most everyone, kids and parents alike. Building a snowman can be a great activity for just the two of you or for the whole family. Of course, there will need to be some snowballs thrown in the process. Don't forget to warm up after with a blanket, hot chocolate and laughter.

Advice to couples

At my granddaughter's wedding, the DJ polled the guests to see who had been married longest. It turned out to be my husband and I. The DJ asked us, "What advice would you give to the newly-married couple?" I said, "The three most important words in a marriage are, 'You're probably right.'" Everyone then looked at my husband. He said, "Yeah, she's probably right."

Romantic Welcome Home Ideas: Part 2 Attract the Senses

two pumpkin pies Originally uploaded by strph This is the third in a series called Romantic Welcome Home Ideas . The aroma of pies fills the house. Not just any pies, pumpkin pies. My wife makes wonderful pumpkin pie and she also knows that I am the original pumpkin pie fiend. Every once in a while, she will surprise me with fresh home-made pumpkin pies. Making it Real talks about how the more senses you can involve, the more strongly the message is received. In brief, the human brain receives all its information from the 5 senses. Each sense contributes to a complete picture of what is real, true and sincere. If you say "I love you" with a frown on your face, the message is confused. What the eyes see does not match what the ears hear, diminishing the intensity of the message. This is where the pumpkin pie comes into play. The simple, if not time consuming, act of cooking pumpkin pies sends the message "welcome home" to all 5 senses. The first to get

Do something

You only lose energy when life becomes dull in your mind. Your mind gets bored and therefore tired of doing nothing. Get interested in something! Get absolutely enthralled in something! Get out of yourself! Be somebody! Do something. The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have. Norman Vincent Peale Doing something is very important in a marriage. Keep the relationship interesting by talking, dating and flirting with each other. Do not become dull.

3 Easy Steps to Boring

Many people can related to " Life in Eight Easy Steps ". Wake up Drink coffee Drive to Work Work Drive Home Watch TV Go to Bed Repeat steps 1-7 until death occurs. We all have a glass chicken coop we live in called a "comfort zone". Life is comfortable in the comfort zone. Life is nice in the comfort zone. Life is also boring in the comfort zone. Thanks to my chosen vocation, I have become an expert on boring. Some people are the life of the party, I am the death of the party. For an unfun time, try this at the next party you attend: When someone asks what you do, answer "computer programmer". The eyes go vacant, the smile leaves the face and the tumbleweeds roll through the mind. Instant boredom. As an expert on boredom, I will now present to you my 3 step no-fail process for boring. The 3 steps are: Lack of Vision, Fear, and Procrastination. Lack of Vision Disney's Jungle Book is a great movie, one I have liked since childhood. There is

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The Power of Gratitude

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. William Arthur Ward Over time, many marriages lose that romantic spark. In Expressing Gratitude and Appreciation you can read: The importance of gratitude cannot be overstated. A marriage that is full of gratitude is also full of romance. A marriage devoid of gratitude soon loses its flame. The same article also includes several ideas for expressing gratitude. Gratitude is most important in any relationship. That goes doubly so for a marriage. Thanksgiving is a great time to express gratitude for your sweetheart. Back in 2004 I wrote the 25 Days of Thanksgiving. The idea is to write the things you are thankful for and then share them with each other on Thanksgiving day. Another way to express gratitude is Sweetie Appreciation Week . Declare a week to show how much you appreciate your sweetie and do something special everyday. the article will gi

Holiday Gift Buying that Makes a Difference

The holiday buying season is coming up. We all want to give gifts with meaning. This year, consider a gift that is not only very nice, but also benefits those less fortunate. As I mention in my other blog , there are some companies dedicated to helping people rather than exploiting them. One of these is called My Princess Pearls . Not only do they pay a decent wage, they also collect donations to be sent to help the families further. From their website: The Mission of My Princess Pearls is to improve the living conditions in third world countries while helping women accessorize their wardrobes with Genuine Handmade Jewelry at amazingly affordable prices. Our genuine pearl jewelry comes directly from Asian women who have been trained in the jewelry making process by our source . Now, previous non-income earners are able to sustain their families. By offering unique financial opportunities to Independent Distributors worldwide, we continue our goal of improving the standard of liv

Making it real

spin it Originally uploaded by antpix What is real? Ponder that for just a moment. As you ponder that, consider that with optical illusions and the works of Escher, what your eyes see your brain knows cannot be. Some illusions make us see motion in a still image. While others present straight lines that look bent, dots that flash on or off or even a picture of Jesus where this isn't one. The question then is: Can I trust my own eyes? People are equipped with 5 senses: sight, smell, touch, hearing and taste. These 5 senses, combined with memory, form our perception of reality. Almost all we know and perceive as real comes to us through some combination of the senses. The human brain processes the sum total of what the senses perceive along with what is remembered to decide what is real and what is not. We know that, unless you live a Hogwarts, pictures on paper do not move. Our hands touch the paper, our eyes see the paper, you can smell or even taste the p

Saying I love you in different languages

Love is all you need Originally uploaded by a_cherished_memory I love you I love you I love you Phrases oft repeated, often lose their punch. I love you is one of the most common phrases your spouse will hear. If not, it should be. But after years of hearing it, it becomes common. Take that old, worn out "I love you" and give it new life. Make if new by speaking it in a new language. There is a website with lots of translations: Here a just a few: Hawaiian : Aloha Au Ia ʻOe, Aloha No Au Ia ʻOe Latin : te amo French: Je t'aime Scots : Ah loove ye


hellooo... Originally uploaded by nascity Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier -- Mother Teresa

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Bible Verses for Couples: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

I Believe... Originally uploaded by Ange's photos Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I normally read the King James version of the Bible , but sometimes it is helpful to read other versions. Replacing the word charity with the word love makes one reconsider the scripture. Charity, being the pure love of Christ, is what I think of for the world at large. Love is what I tell my wife everyday. When I tell my wife I love her, is this what I mean by love? When I say I love you it means: * I will be patient with you * I will be kind to you * I will not be envious but will rejoice with you * I will not be arrogant but will be humble * I will not be rude but will speak and act with kind

How to make a man happy

To make a man happy, fill his hands with work, his heart with affection, his mind with purpose, his memory with useful knowledge, his future with hope, and his stomach with food. -- Frederick e. Crane

Marriage wisdom from kids

Kissing Kids Originally uploaded by friend_cuttack HOW DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY? You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming. -- Alan, age 10 No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with. -- Kristen, age 10 WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED? Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then. -- Camille, age 10 HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED? You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids. -- Derrick, age 8 WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON? Both don't want any more kids. -- Lori, age 8 WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE? Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you

Make a Jigsaw Puzzle

For a fun surprise, try making your own jigsaw puzzle and sending it to your sweetie. It is easy to do. Simple go to the website, Flash-Gear , upload your image and select the size puzzle pieces. The puzzle is created with the code to either embed it in a web page or to just send the URL. Here is one of my dog.

Halloween Costume Ideas for Couples

Halloween is a fun time of year. Even the adults get to pretend to be something or someone else for a little while. Here are some ideas for both husband and wife to go as a couple. Some are free and others are costumes you buy. First, Shrek and Fiona: Costumes at Walmart Pirates Other Halloween Costume Ideas Halloween Costume Ideas for Couples Costume Idea Zone has a lot of fun ideas. Funniest Costumes for Couples

Free Online Halloween Stuff

Over at, they have a thread on where to get free Halloween stuff . The list includes fonts, crafts, screen savers and even sound effects. I am sure you will be able to some fun ideas to share with your sweetie and kids. Be sure to check back as the list will continue to grow. Some other halloween ideas: Halloween Costume Ideas for Couples

Sweet Deal: Sweetest Day

I like holidays especially ones that are good excuses to do something for my sweetie. I even make up my own, for no reason holiday. I just found out about another made up holiday, only I didn't have to make it up. The Sweetest Day of the year is Saturday October 20th. Originally, Sweetest Day was created by the candy industry solely to increase the sales of candy. Sweetest Day now largely involves giving small presents to loved ones. Isn't that nice? Of course the timing is a bit off because Halloween is just a week or so after, but oh well.

To Be Appreciated

love life, appreciate it, enjoy it Originally uploaded by Benisdelicious I will smile at friend and foe alike and make every effort to find, in him or her, a quality to praise, now that I realize the deepest yearning of human nature is the craving to be appreciated. Og Mandino Smiling and appreciation, what a powerful pair of concepts.

Romantic Welcome Home Ideas Part 1: Decompress and Destress

Snow Crossing Originally uploaded by robbroccoli This is part one in a three part series on Romantic Welcome Home Ideas . Many couples have a rule that the first 10 or fifteen minutes after getting home from work are for relaxing. This time is used to take a few minutes and decompress from the day. It is a moment spent as friends, no problems, to-do lists nor homework. It need not be long, just long enough for everyone to catch their breath before starting the evening. Work can be stressful and the commute home even more so. Giving each other a few friendly minutes to unwind will improve the whole rest of the evening.

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Romantic Welcome Home Ideas, Introduction

Welcome to San Francisco Originally uploaded by eee.xeroid Every so often it is fun to see what searches bring people to this site. The 10 most common are: * romantic tips * printable love coupons * married couples * free printable love coupons * hobbies for couples * romantic bible verses * foot rub * romantic idea married people * shmily * bible verses for couples Most of these are not that surprising, although I admit I did not expect to see the "printable love coupons" show up so much. As I look further down the list, other, less obvious search terms appear. These are things like "the 10 cow wife", "an old farmers advice", and "water heater basement flood". A group of these less common ones impressed me because while it is a subject I have written about several times, never have I really pulled it together. The subject is "Romantic Welcome Home Ideas" and people found this site by searching for things

Date Idea: City Council Meeting

Courtroom One Gavel Originally uploaded by Joe Gratz If you have never been to a city council meeting or if it has been a long time, make a point of going together sometime soon. It is a wonderful thing to see your local government in action. Attending the meetings lets you get to know the issues in your town and the people addressing those issues. By attending as a couple, each of you will have noticed different things and by discussing the meeting later come to a better understanding of your city and each other.

Happy Constitution Day - Sept 17

I saw in the news this morning that today is Constitution Day. On Sept. 17, 1787, the U.S. Constitution was signed by thirty-nine brave men who changed the course of history. Now Constitution Day is a time for us to continue their legacy and develop habits of citizenship in a new generation of Americans. Take a few minutes today and check out the amendments with your sweetie and family. The first ten are the "Bill of Rights" and refer to the rights that citizens of the United States of America hold. Check them all out. If you haven't you might be surprised at what you find. Feel free to comment, I will feel free to moderate the comments. Amendments Amendment 1 - Freedom of Religion, Press, Expression Amendment 2 - Right to Bear Arms Amendment 3 - Quartering of Soldiers Amendment 4 - Search and Seizure Amendment 5 - Trial and Punishment, Compensation for Takings Amendment 6 - Right to Speedy Trial, Confrontation of Witnesses Amendmen

Anatomy of a friend

Sundays Ultra Originally uploaded by Escape Vehicle Eyes: Will always see you for the way you really are, your true self. Ears: Will always have them open to listen. Mouth: To always tell you the truth and give their opinions, tell you when you mess up or do something good. Shoulders: Will offer when you need one to cry on and will be your strength when you find it hard to carry yourself. Will always let you lean on them. Heart: To love you for who you are and not judge. Will always have a place there for you. Hands: To hold yours when you need a little guidance, to lend when you need help, and to help you up when you may fall. Arms: Will always make you feel comfortable in them and to offer hugs when you need one. Will try to warm when you are cold. Feet: To walk with you throughout your life and be the best friend they can be.

Sweet Acts of Kindness

I stumbled upon a posting of a wife expressing her gratitude to her husband for a "sweet act of kindness: The Parkits: Sweet Acts of Kindness : "I came home yesterday from a long day of work to some really sweet notes from my husband! He put them in very creative places so I would find them as I went about the rest of my day!! What an amazing blessing the Lord has given me!!!!!" Go check it out. I'll wait..... Post it notes: 23 cents Pen to write note: 23 cents (probably already have one) Time to write and hide notes: 10 minutes Instilling a sense of gratitude and appreciation in your relationship: priceless. As I have mentioned before, it is the small and simple acts of kindness that make a relationship beautiful.

Date Idea: Laser Tag

run Originally uploaded by dingadingdang This can be a great night with other couples or with the whole family.

Kind Words

To a so kind flower! / À une si gentille fleur! Originally uploaded by denis collette Kind words do not cost much. They never blister the tongue or lips. They make other people good-natured. They also produce their own image on men's souls, and a beautiful image it is. - Blaise Pascal

Why gripe?

A Droplet Of Time Originally uploaded by MINDFLAME I came across this quote: My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding. All it will do is discolor my personality so that none will want to associate with me. That was my old life. No more. Og Mandino Thing is, my sweetie and I were just discussing complaining and what it does to a relationship. No one likes to listen to a complainer. People would much rather associate with positive people. There are basically two types of things to gripe about: those you can control and those you can't. If you do not have any control over it, why complain? People do not like listening to gripes and it won't solve anything anyway. On the other hand, if you can fix it, why complain? Stop complaining and start acting. It is too easy to find faults and to point them out. Rather, find things to praise and point them out. It might be much harder, but most things

Catch a falling star on Saturday Morning.

Did you see the lunar eclipse a couple of days ago? There is already another celestial event in the works. 2007 Aurigids - The Aurigid Meteor Shower Observing Campaign : "This very rare shower will occur again on 1 September 2007. A brief shower of tens of meteors will radiate from the constellation of Auriga, many as bright as the brighter stars in the sky. The Earth will be in the thick of it during the one hour centered on 04:33 a.m. PDT. The shower will be visible by the naked eye from locations in the western United States, including Hawaii and Alaska, from Mexico, and from the western provinces of Canada." Get up early with your sweetie and go see if you can catch a falling star. Here are some viewing tips: Best viewing is in high altitude locations, where scattered moonlight does not brighten the night sky. Watch towards the East and NorthEast. Check out the 2007 Aurigids website for more info.

Send an eCard

Vintage Christmas Cards Originally uploaded by Picnic by Ellie As a married couple we spend a lot of time apart. My wife and I really only see each other after work and then it is a lot of running around. There isn't much time left for romance. Here is an idea of how to have a romantic moment even when you are not in the same location. Send an eCard. An eCard is an email you send that has an electronic greeting card. They are often animated and have music to go along with the message. You pick the card you want, the email address of the recipient and then enter a personal message. These are fun for all sorts of occasions or just because to say "Thinking of you". Here is a sample card I sent from the Hallmark website . There are lots of free ones as well as premium ones. Some of them even let you add your own photo to personalize the card even more. Take a few moments and let your sweetheart know that even though you aren't not together at this moment,