Showing posts from March, 2006

Be part of something beyond yourself

Being part of an agenda beyond ourselves liberates us to complement each other rather than compete with each other. Joseph Stowell Make your marriage that agenda and find ways to complement your spouse, rather than feeling like you need to compete with them.

Living under the Time Pressure

Living under the Time Pressure Originally uploaded by Arnold Pouteau's . At work I have a calendar on the computer that keeps my schedule and lets eveyone else know if I am in meetings or otherwise not available. This allows me to plan my time and also manage the expectations of others. People know I won't be at my desk if my calendar says I'm in a meeting. It also keeps people from double booking meetings. My time at work is very precious and needs to be managed accordingly. One thing I do is schedule an hour a day for excersise. This simple act ensures that no meeting is schedule at that time. The computer even reminds me when its time to go workout. Isn't your time with your family no less important than your time at work? Find ways to schedule your personal life the same way you schedule your work life. When all is said and done, your relationship with your sweetie is far more important than your work or career. If need be, I will put an "appo

Love and Joy

Small things, done in great love, bring joy and peace. Mother Teresa (1910-1997, Albanian-born Roman Catholic missionary)

Welcome Home

Vernal Halo Tree Trance Originally uploaded by Elkhead . After 17 years of marriage, my sweetie has left me, for a few days. She is being a chaperone for the high school band trip. Its a weird feeling not having her here. I travel about once a year to training and whatnot, but she has never been the one to go and leave me home. Its more differenter than I thought it was going to be. So I've been Mr. Mom for a few days. No big deal. I arranged to work from home and so I can be here for the little critter when they get home from school. We've being having fun. The point of this posting is this: I want to prepare a little surprise for my sweetheart for when she returns. I have a few ideas, most of which have been posted previously. What I need now is your ideas. What are some romantic ways to welcome home that special sweetie when you've been apart for a few days? Email or post your comments.

Get your sweetie a free iPod

I am working on getting my sweetie a free iPod . A friend of mine found this site where you can get free iPods. I told him, "Talk to me about it when I see the iPod in your hands". To make a long story short, he was able to get one for himself and one for his sweetheart. I tried it and got one for myself. Now I am working on one for my sweetie. What's the catch? The way it works is you register at the site, then you need to "complete an offer". That means to signup for some online service from the list they give you. I signed up for Real Arcade because it was quite cheap and I could cancel it if I decided I didn't really want to keep the service. Then, you need 5 people to register under you and do the same. That's it. From my experience, most people are hesitant at first. But, once they understand that its not a scam, they are happy to give it a try.

Scriptures on Marriage: Matthew 5:28

I normally avoid the "thou shalt not" in favor of the "thou shalt" in all my postings. Telling someone what the wrong answer is, is not the same as giving them the right answer. Also, having a positive approach can be more encouraging and gives the blog as a whole a more uplifting attitude. Today, I am going to break with my custom and go with a "thou shalt not". In Matthew 5:28 we read: 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. This verse has been popping into my brain often over the past several months, so I am finally going to post about it. There is a lot of salacious material (I am avoiding the "p" word) available on the Internet, in magazines and in movies. I could harp on how indulging in such material destroys self-confidence, is addicting and reduces the respect your sweetheart and children have for you. There has been a lot written on the su


misty Originally uploaded by algo . I saw this saying: The best way to predict the future ... is to create it. Vision. What do you want your marriage to look like? Take a few minutes and create in your mind the "ideal marriage". Include how you treat each other, expections, and indiviual development. Some areas things to include: * What are my interests and how do I find time to explore them? * What are the interests of my sweetheart and how do I support my sweetie deleoping those interests and talents? * What make me happiest? What makes my sweeite happiest? * How do my children behave? * How do I express my love and appreciation to my sweetie? Picture in your mind the ideal world. Now identify those things YOU CAN CHANGE to bring your marriage closer to your ideal. Start making the changes. Do not try and change your spouse. Instead, make the proper changes in your behavior and your sweetie will natuarally make reciprocal changes to adjust.

Pot of Gold

Pot of Gold Originally uploaded by red74015 . St. Patricks Day is upon us. For a surprise for your sweetie, get a pot and fill it with chocolate gold coins. Mix in with the gold coins some scraps of gold paper with the reasons you treasure your sweetie and your marriage.

Celebrate Pi Day

The Ridiculously Enhanced Pi Page National Pi Day is March 14th (3.14) festivities begin at 1:59. In honor of the occasion, I would suggest a surprise pie for your sweetie. Also, remember, in spite of what they may have taught you in math about PI*R^2, pies are really round. (Say it out loud, Gracie ). See the official Pi Day site.

Mona and Julia

Antique Car Originally uploaded by lore . Mona and Julia are old friends. They have both been married for many years. Mona is upset because she thinks her husband doesn't find her attractive anymore. "He doesn't even seem to see me anymore," she cries. "I'm so sorry for you. My husband says I get more beautiful every day," replies Julia. "Yes," says Mona. "But remember, your husband's an antique dealer."


Heartfelt Originally uploaded by andi2 . I really like the idea of this ring. It has a special mark in the inside where no-one can see it. Only the giver and the receiver will know what is hidden inside.

Just three words

Another interesting article I found floating around the Internet: There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured. The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship. 1. Let me help Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out. 2. I understand you. People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship. 3. I respect you Respect is another way of showing love. Respect dem

A open love letter

Previously, I posted on love letters. I just came across a wonderful example of a love letter. Here is a small excerpt: You once asked me if I would do it all again. In spite of everything, dear, the answer is yes; because all of it happened with YOU.

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Money can be romantic

For Love or Money Originally uploaded by nomm de photo . We all have heard the statistics concerning divorce and finances. Talking about money can be tricky. For some reason, people are easily offended when money is the topic. Some ideas to make talking about money easier: * Do not talk about money when tired. * Write down the decisions so you don't have to remake them * Don't wait until there is a problem. What are some of the techniques you and your sweetheart have used to discuss and plan finances.

Dancing is good for the mind as well as the body

Dancing with your sweetie is a great activity. It is good exercise as well as being fun. Now there is evidence to show that dancing might be good for the mind. In the U.S. News and World Report we read: Frequent dancing, for example, which demands musical concentration and knowing where to put your feet while engaging in polite conversation, showed a robust 75 percent reduction in risk. Activities like knitting, gardening, and traveling afford similar benefits. Having a healthy mind and body is important. Find interesting and challenging things to do as a couple. Things that don't require sitting on the couch. So here's a prescription: a few chapters of Harry Potter, the New York Times Sunday crossword puzzle, and some ballroom dancing to relaxing music with a partner you really like. That just may be the real secret to happy retirement.