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Fixed Patterns

All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns. Bruce Lee As you probably know, Bruce Lee was a martial arts expert as well as a movie star. He even created his own form of martial arts. In martial arts, patterns are fixed routines, similar to a choreographed dance routine. A pattern consists of a set of movements and are an important part of the study of martial arts. Part of receiving an advancement to the next belt rank involves mastery of a new pattern. Bruce Lee recognized that, while patterns are important, they are only a tool. It would be foolish to expect to follow a pattern in a sparring match or a real fight and expect to win. Facing an opponent requires moving outside the pattern and reacting to the reality of the situation. A marriage relationship has set patterns as well. Get up, go to work, come home, yard work, kids' homework, etc etc etc. Yet, as Bruce Lee noted, the truth is outside these patt

A Quiet Date

Have a quiet date. The point is to be able to talk and enjoy each other's company without the pressure of being somewhere or doing something. Examples: * Talk a walk in the park * Go and watch a little league baseball game. * Take the dog for a walk. Enjoy the simple pleasure of time spend with a good friend.

Does this make me look fat?

Guys, Has this ever happened to you? You are getting ready to go to a social engagement. You're all ready, the wife is looking good and putting the finishing touches on. Then, out of the blue, it happens: Does this make me look fat? The novice husband will answer either yes or no. Sounds like a "yes or no" type question, so it makes sense to answer with one of those. The novice husband then gains experience, but is left wondering why she is upset. The more experienced husband realizes that neither yes nor no is the correct answer, but wonders what it might be. A primordial grunt usually suffices to keep one out of hot water. In a later posting, we'll revisit this subject on why yes and no are both wrong. Ok, what is the answer to the question? The answer is to not answer the question. Let me explain. When your sweetie asks "Does this make me look fat?" or some other such loaded question, use a bit of redirection. Stop, look her up and down. Tell h

Getting Messy

Ever notice how much fun kids have getting messy? They are attracted to puddles and mud like moths to a flame. Today, let out that inner kid out. Go for a walk in the rain, splash and laugh. Maybe have a whipping cream fight or make a cake with plenty of sugar and chocolate.

Date Idea: Progressive Dinner

The other night we had a great time. We participated in a "progressive dinner". Pick one place for an appetizer, another for the main entre and another for dessert. For a little more fun, choose places you have never been before.

Watch a Solar Eclipse

If you are lucky enough to be able to observe the solar eclipse on April 8, 2005 , make it a point to do so together. There is something in the quiet power implied by an eclipse that makes one ponder the imponderables of life. Remember that looking directly at the sun, even during an eclipse can hurt your eyes. Be sure and read the Nasa Eclipse Eye Safety page for information on safely enjoying the eclipse.

Be Benevolent to Each Other

In Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure Bill, or is it Ted, advises the people of the future to: Be Excellent! ... to each other. That thought, by itself should be sufficient a posting. But wait, there is more. In 1 Corinthians 7:3 , Paul advises the saints in Corinth: 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. What, then, is benevolence ? One definition is: The disposition to do good; good will; charitableness; love of mankind, accompanied with a desire to promote their happiness. In other words, a desire to do nice things to make other people happy. It is the ability to find joy in making other people happy. It is the very opposite of "what's in it for me?" Benevolence, then, is what romance is all about. By doing acts of benevolence for your sweetie and by recognizing and appreciating benevolence when directed at you, you will discover the very heart and soul of romance. Indeed, the very key to keep

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April Fools Day

Ok, most of us think of Valentines when we think of romantic holidays. But April Fools day can also be romantic, with just a little thought. The essence of April Fools is to surprise your sweetie. Instead of pulling a practical joke, pull an indirection instead. A couple of ideas: Remove the light bulb from the bedroom and call sweetie back to fix it. Use your imagination of what to do in the dark. Bring take out dinner home and put it in the oven. Tell sweetie you slaved all day making their favorite. Bring out the dinner, still in the take out boxes. Tell sweetie the power is out and have a cold dinner by candlelight. A romantic gag gift Get a romantic card or a suggestive card and write April Fools on the envelope and put "Since we have some time alone, let have lunch at ________" on the inside of the card. Drive somewhere within walking distance of nice restaurant. Call sweetie and say the car broke down and that you need a ride. Make sure sweetie finds the c