Showing posts from September, 2004

Watching a Movie

Of course, spending time watching a movie together can be romantic. But it needs to be a good "couple watchable" movie. If its a pure "chick flick" then he will be bored. On the other hand, violence, gore and flying body parts don't set the proper mood either. The best romantic movies portray the nobility of the human spirit. A few most romantic movies to watch together are: Casablanca A Walk in the Clouds The Mask of Zorro First Knight


Most everyone loves s'mores. What's not to love with the ooey gooey crunchy chocolatey delicacy? Mostly, s'mores are done over a camp fire in the great outdoors. So the smell of the smoke and forest with the sounds of the fire crackling add to the ever all enjoyment of these treats. Even if you are not camping, there are several ways to enjoy them at home. Microware Place a graham cracker on a flat micro-wave safe plate. Then place the chocolate on top of it. Finally, place the marshmallow on the chocolate. Place the plate in the microwave and nuke. WATCH IT CAREFULLY!! It only takes 13 seconds in my microwave at home. The marshmallow will expand like a balloon. Take it out, put the graham cracker on top and share. For added ambience, get one of those scented candles that smells outdoorsy and light it. Maybe even one of those "sounds of wildlife" and a fireplace screen saver. Charcoal S'mores of charcoal briquettes can be a lot of fun. First, it

Take Time to Smile

Often, with the stress of work, we come home less than cheerful. Also, with the stress of chores, kids, school, soccer, piano, etc. etc. etc., our sweetie is also feeling run down by evening. With all the demands on our time and so many things that need out attention, the nightly greeting between sweethearts can lack warmth. Think about it: You two have spent most of the day apart. With sleep, work, school, sports, and all the other things that happen in a standard day, its very easy to let the whole day pass without a single warm smile or flirtatious touch. Make the time that you and your sweetie meet after being apart all day a time to smile. First, perpare yourself. If it has been a stressful day, use the last few minutes before you see your sweetie, to start thinking happy thoughts. Maybe remember a happy time you spent with your sweetie. Now, meeting your sweetheart. Let the first thing your sweethearts sees is a big happy smile. If its been a while since you smiled, the

Covered in warmth

Before your sweetie gets in the shower, start the dryer going with some towels. Just as they are finishing, get 2 towels out of the dryer and place them for your sweetie. A nice warm towel after showering is a luxury they may not have experienced before.

You've Got Romance

Send your special someone a romantic email. Several web sites on the internet allow you to send greetings cards via email. Send one just because you are thinking of them.

The Goal of Life

People like winners; they are fun to be around. We love to cheer for the winning team. In movies, books and sports are examples of people putting it on the line. They step outside the ordinary to do something extrordinary. This sets them apart as someone special. Today its time to get outside the comfort zone. Set yourself some goals to improve yourself. Need to get in better shape? Set a goal. Some skills you are lacking? Set a goal. Then share the goal with that special someone. Make plans with them to help you reach that goal. Then let them cheer you along the way. Share your successes and your diffuculties. As you reach your goals, you can be a winner. As mentioned before, everyone loves a winner.

Romantic Bible Verses

Take a card and write the person's name on it and a Bible reference. The fun is in looking up the verses. I have included a few verses for ideas. Looking them up is left as an exercise to the reader. Song of Solomon - Chapter 2:10-13 Song of Solomon - Chapter 1:15-16 Song of Solomon - Chapter 4:9-15 Proverbs - Chapter 5:18-19 Proverbs 31:10-11

Family Romance

Children and romance don't mix. Most people think that way. Yet, as parents, we love our children very much. So why can't a romantic gesture include the whole family? Well, the answer is it can. A simple example of how this can be accomplished. Purchase a dozen roses. Give one or two to each child. Then have each child deliver their flowers and say somehting like "I know who mommy's boyfriend is". Send each child individually and wait a few minutes in between. Then lastly deliver the rest of the flowers yourself.

An Un-special Occasion Card

People usually think of greetings cards only for "special" occassions like birthdays and Christmas. Special life events like births, deaths, and graduations are also remembered with a greeting card. For the rest of the year, we forget about these little beauties. Next time you are at the store, look at the greetings cards. Note only are there cards for every sort of specail occassion, there are also a bunch of "friendship", "romance" and "thank you" cards. Today's tip is to find one of these cards. If in doubt, a thank you card can't go wrong. Wait until you have no reason whatsoever to send it. Hand write a short message of love and gratitude. Hand address the envelope then stamp it and mail it.

Physical Evidence

"Talk is cheap" or so it has been said. In the area of romance, cheap may be cheap, but it is also necessary. We all need to hear that we are loved and appreciated. And a sincere expression of gratitude is never wrong. However, hearing is just one of the senses. If you can involve the other senses in the expressions of love and gratitude it will be that much more effective and memorable. The tip for today is to leave a short note of love and gratitude to be found at a later time, preferably when you are not around. Write the note on something other than just white paper. If possible, include some small treat. This small act will involve 4 of the 5 senses: the writing and the paper for the eyes, the feel of the paper and the act of unfolding the note for the sense of touch, the treat for both the taste and smell. When several of the senses are included, the message seems more "real". That is, it seems more sincere and it is therefore more enjoyable and mem

Make a note of it

Throughout the year that special someone in your life will make comments like "oh, I've always wanted one of those", "I just know we could never get that" or "maybe someday ...". You get the idea. This is known as hint dropping. When a hint it dropped, make a note of it. First, get yourself a notepad, or just a page in or day planner or some spot in your PDA. Call it your "hint list". Next, whenever a hint is dropped, log it in the hint list. Then, next time you feel like doing something special, take one of the things off the hint list and make it happen.

Look into my eyes

Hold both of her hands and look into her eyes. Hold her gaze until she starts to wonder what you are up to. At that moment, smile and mouth the words "I love you". Finish it off with a great big bear hug.

Small, sweet surprises

Buy several small candies, the one's she really likes, and hide them in various places so she will find them over the course of a week.

Until the last flower fades

Give you sweetheart a dozen real roses and one silk rose with a note that says "I will love you until the last flower fades".


The acronym S.H.M.I.L.Y. works wonderfully.... See How Much I Love You. Using only the acronym, take turns leaving little reminders. Get creative: Write it on the bathroom mirror with soap, or hide a small piece of paper in a sock or shoe, or use oreos on the back window of his/her car... See if you can do it without being too obvious, and try to make it something they won't notice for a little while. Travis

Valentine's Scavenger Hunt

Send your significant other on a scavenger hunt while you stay home and prepare a candlelight dinner. On Valentine's Day, I gave my husband clue cards of where to go and obtain things that I had left there. He had to go to my sister-in-laws and drop off the children, from there he had to go to my mother-in-laws to pick up chocolate covered strawberries, and then over to my mom's to pick up apple cider disguised as a bottle of wine. During that time I was able to get myself and dinner ready and surprise him when he walked through the door. The great thing about this is that it doesn't cost a lot of money and you get to be alone instead of a crowded restaurant. Thanks Aurelia

Ambush Getaway

Pack a few essentials, Include a bottle of sparkling cider with champagne flutes (Plastic of course), arrange for care of the children, Kidnap your spouse and drive to a hotel for a wonderful weekend getaway. Thanks Doug